RANT continued. “Exorcising the Ex”, trapped in the closet part#2

Here we are again and I bet everyone who read has there own outcome of the first half of my little story in their head. Now just a little recap, last time I told decent part of my little story and presented my first four rules. If you remember anything at all remember the rules. Rule 1: NEVER DATE A CO-WORKER. Easy enough but soooo many people make this little mistake. Rule 2: When a grown man over 25 still lives at home there is a serious problem. Now there are reasons and circumstances that anyone would understand about still living at home, safety, the economy, job loss and I totally get that it becomes an only option BUT rule 3 states, now if a man is fully capable to get up and get out and doesn’t, that is a sign of “Over-Babied Syndrome”.  There is a huge difference between a man living at home because he has to, to a man who won’t leave home. Then there is my favorite rule so far rule 4: it’s not about need it’s about want. So simple, I wish more men and frankly more women understood this concept. So now to finish the story, how exactly did we end our relationship? Slowly and painfully and in more ways then one, is how I would some it up. One day he just came home and told me that it was my fault, to pack and go. Fine by me, I wasted no time and blaming me that was totally fine. To be honest I was waiting for him to give me an easy way out. Now I had no trouble with this until a little while after I found out that the night we had it out he walked out the door to some chick that was waiting for him downstairs. The verdict is out on weather he was already cheating or not is still out. This was not just any chick but a girl I despise for more than one reason. What makes this better is that later he had the nerve to tell me that he did this out of spite. Here comes rule 5, avoid Mister Spiteful. Any man who would bluntly admit something like this is just a little emotionally detached and that’s not the man to spend the rest of your life with, the type of man to avoid. Now I know high school girls are like this but I did not know that 28 year old men were to. Don’t worry I get to laugh in the end at this though. SO here I am with a brand new car (in both are names) back at home and pissed off. So I sold the car walked away with a couple grand and started living again. Where is he a year later, he’s calling me telling me he has an STD, even more debt and a 19 year old baby mama….Really? What did we just learn?? We just learned rule 6, have faith in karma. Many don’t believe in it but if this isn’t pure proof I just don’t know what is. Some day when you least expect it, it will spring into action and if your the victim well I hope you paid it forward. Now all of this is enough to make me shake my head now. As you can imagine at the time I was heart broken, pissed and confused. Now I am perfectly content with this as a part of my past. I decided early I was not going to be that broken girl. SO here is rule: 7 let it go. There will come a point that enough is enough and that’s good because you will be able to. When you stop carrying that weight all will be right with the world. So to this day I get a phone call from him every now and then and believe me this is just the Sunday school version of my story. Don’t get me wrong I don’t wish bad on anyone but I know he’s miserable. Rule:8/9 move up and move on. Find a new one. It will be someone who will make you happy. They say if you stop looking for it, it will find you. So in the end what matters is how you end up in the end, and I ended up just fine. Its something to ponder when you end your next relationship.